How to Find Your Soulmate:

Hello my lovelies! I thought it was about time I wrote something on How to Find Your Soulmate, since I met mine 7 years ago, and people ask me all the time how I managed it...

We humans wander around this planet hoping to find happiness, even though we seldom know how to go about achieving it. Many of us believe in something called a 'Soulmate', and most people's definition would go something like to this:
"A Soulmate is someone who I will fall madly in love with, who will love me unconditionally, and accept me exactly as I am."

One thing missing from the equation is for you to have those same qualities for yourself, to love yourself unconditionally and accept yourself exactly as you are. This is difficult even for the strongest among us, but there are things we can do to improve, that will automatically attract results. Here is the most powerful one (Trust me it works!):

1. Sit in a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed, close your eyes and start to feel as if you are in love beyond anything you have felt before. Try and actually picture the things you would do together, the feeling of being fully embraced, the comfort of knowing someone completely, and really get into that experience as if it were already here happening to you. Picture the essence of what you want, not a specific person. Do this before you fall asleep, and as you wake up in the morning (you can do it all day long if you like- I often did it on my lunch breaks at work).

This practice does two things: It gives you the feeling of love, as if you are having it right now, which will improve the message that you put out into the world about yourself; and it, in return, brings unexpected synchronicity and a greater chance of drawing your soulmate to you. It may sound silly to you, but it can't hurt, so why not try?

When I did this for a one month I met my soulmate, moved in with him after one week, and we have been happy together for the past seven years.  I remember really enjoying the process too. It made me feel good to imagine being in love.

There are 3 Other Things you Can Do to Find Love Right Now:

1. Change one Thing:

Change one thing a day. It can be something as simple as eating a fruit you've never tried, having a tea in the morning at a new coffee house, or taking a different route to work. Here is why: Most people are creatures of habit, eating the same range of foods they're used to, going to the same places and traveling the same paths to get to and from those places. Now if the love of your life is one of those creatures of habit, he or she will walk down the same streets as usual and so will you. Unless one of you does something different you'll never run into each other.

This principle can be applied to a huge range of situations on your life. If you want new things to happen you have to do something NEW! The old saying you've probably heard goes like this: "The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result". So go ahead and shake things up!

2. Step outside of your comfort zone:

OK this is related to #1. but it requires a little more effort- not too much-but some. There is a stupid movie called The Yes Man and in the beginning there is a guy who never goes out with friends or coworkers, and never takes risks of any kind because he had his heart broken a while back. He thinks his life is fine until he loses most of his friends and one of them points out the fact that he never says yes to anything.

Soooo... he starts saying yes to a crazy number of propositions including internet ads, classes he finds on bulletin boards, and requests from homeless people. Of course it gets ridiculous, but he meets a girl (who is just as weird as he is), and they live happily ever after.

Alright I know it's a movie but it does work! I promise. Sign up on Meetup.com in your area and list all the nutty things you're interested in. They will send you information (via email) about all sorts of groups that have formed in your city and what they are up to. It's the greatest thing ever! Start going to potlucks, yoga class, hiking, concerts, sit in on a university class you think yo might like, go swimming at a local pool- the list is endless.

The point is that even though you may not feel completely comfortable doing new things the benefits will far outweigh the small discomfort.

3. Be open to receive what comes to you:

This one is simple- just take the headphones out of your ears, stop staring at your iphone on the subway, and if you're reading a book look up once in a while! Be aware of human beings around you that you might be able to connect with if you weren't so tuned out. Now get out there and find that elusive love!

Here is a movie I really enjoyed watching, called Quantum Communication. It's kind of along the lines of the movie The Secret, (but much better), as it's mainly quantum physicists and other scientists going into much more detail about why and how we are like radio transmitters broadcasting messages out all the time about what our world is like. Therefore, what you feel and think brings you what you ask for. Anyway, watch it and you will start to understand that we affect everything around us:

Quantum communication 1/9 

 I do believe we may have more than one soulmate in a lifetime, and that we still have to work at our relationships to keep them fresh and alive. We have to treat each other well, and keep the romance with small gestures that are simple and sweet. 

Good Luck!

xoxo

Lyn